I've been wanting to blog for a long time. There has been so many things in my heart and mind. But to be honest my emotions have been way to close to the surface.
This past week has been difficult as a sweet friend of mine lost her fight with cancer.
My friend Carla Niesen passed away on Monday, October 12th. She was an amazing person. Full of life, laughter and fun. I can not remember ever visiting with her that I didn't laugh at something she was saying! It just wasn't possible. She could turn the worst of times into the best of times. She did this the whole time she was dealing with cancer.
Carla left behind a sweet husband, 2 daughters at home, ages 17 and 14, a young son, age 7, a married daughter and son in law and a brand new granddaughter - only 5 days old. I know that Carla is in a better place. I am happy for her and that she isn't in pain anymore. I can only imagine what happy reunions took place the day Carla returned Home.
Carla was never bitter or angry. She always had a positive attitude about her cancer. She turned every negative into a positive.
A week before she passed away I went to visit her at the hospice center she was staying at. A member of our stake presidency was there. She was asking him about what he was going to do after he was released. She asked him if he was getting his papers ready to go on a mission. Then Carla said, "I'm going on a mission. My kids asked why they couldn't go too. I told them it was because you didn't get picked! I did!" There it was again. Her positive attitude. Making everyone else comfortable with the eventual outcome! There was never a gloomy sad feeling.
I think the worse part about Carla's leaving is missing her! I feel sad for her family. I feel sad for her children. Children shouldn't have to grow up without their Mommy's. Husbands shouldn't have to be alone so young. And grandbabies should be able to grow up knowing their grandma's.
Carla and I used to joke about raising our grandchildren together! She announced that she was going to be a grandma by saying... "You aren't going to be mad at me because I'm going to be a grandma before you?" "Of course not!" I remember telling her! I was so excited for her and for her daughter!
The Sunday before Carla's funeral we had stake conference. We had a 70 visiting, Elder Richards. At the Adult meeting on Saturday he talked about something that meant alot to me for so many reasons and it reminded me of Carla. He told us to "turn our afflictions into blessings." He shared some examples. It reminded me of many of my "afflictions" and the resulting "blessings" that always come! It reminded me of Carla - and how she turned her "affliction" into a blessing.
I titled this blog "turning our afflictions into blessings" because I don't want to forget what I have learned. Although, I will miss Carla so much, I am grateful for the blessing of learning so much from her: How to smile when your heart is breaking. How to allow my faith to carry me through hard times. To look at all the good around me and remember to tell my kids I love them everyday. Service, service and more service is what makes us happy - truly happy.
I want to honor my friend by following her example, which is following the Savior - and becoming more like Him. Thank you Carla, for being my friend. For making me smile. For reminding me what it truly means to be a disciple of Christ. For reminding me that out of every trial comes blessings! I love you!